Magnificent Mothering

Posted by Alona in For the Ladies, UncategorizedFeb 3rd, 2011 | no responses

Despite the nurturing attributes that come naturally to moms, sometimes they seek help and guidance in being the best moms they can be. Maybe they are worried because they can’t provide their children with all the material luxuries they wish they could, maybe they feel like they are not as educated as they should be, or maybe they just have other characteristics that make them doubt themselves – such as carelessness, impatience, or immaturity. No mother is perfect, but it doesn’t hurt anything to aim towards magnificence when it comes to mothering.

So Far, So Good

If you have carried a child in your womb and given birth to him or her, you’ve already done something magnificent! You now have a child who needs and loves you – an innocent little being that does not judge you on how much money or education you have, on whether or not you’re wearing stylish clothes, on what you smell like, or even if you have a booger in your nose! It’s relaxing to finally meet a human being who doesn’t yet know how to judge and who hasn’t yet been taught what’s hot and what’s not. So the first thing you should do is relax and enjoy this unconditional love. Your baby loves you simply because you’re you – your existence is reason enough!

And it Just Keeps Getting Better from Here…

There are mothers, bless their hearts, who go to great lengths to provide their children with the best toys, clothes, books, activities and lessons there are. It is wonderful that they want to give their children the best start in life – that they want their children to be bright and early learners, to develop talents, wear attractive clothes, and to experience the best of opportunities – these mothers probably know their children will appreciate all the things they’ve done for them someday… But remember, children loved you as you were before, and they didn’t even ask you for any of those things. If you’re doing so much that it makes you feel stressed or burdened by motherhood, your child may end up feeling like he or she is to blame – and it’s hard to keep loving someone who sees him or her as a burden – which causes a cycle of hurt and resentment to go back and forth for years ahead. The most magnificent of mothers provide their children with love – that’s it – love. As simple as it sounds, love is often confused with things it’s not. Love is not screaming at your children to get in the car so that you can take them to swimming lessons while you’re so stressed out you could snap. Love is not exhausting yourself working all the time to purchase expensive toys and name-brand clothes, and then subconsciously seeing your children as leaches that suck you dry. Love is not doing so much for your children that you turn them into spoiled, begging, demanding brats… Love is love. Children can feel love from a person who does just the basic things for them – fixes them food, keeps them clean, takes care of them when they’re sick and helps them to learn. To you, it may not feel like you’re doing enough for them, but the expression of love on your face when you’re relaxed enough to look at them and smile is priceless. It tells your children you truly delight in who they are, and that you truly love being their mother! And those are the secrets of being a magnificent mom!

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